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A good question is like a mirror, reflecting back the true meaning of a situation or an experience for the first time. A really good question can be life changing.

With this in mind, I’ve taken inspiration from the work of Psychiatrist, Dr. Edward Hallowell (http://www.drhallowell.com/add-adhd/add-business/shine-2/) and suggested some darn good questions below. They have a number of uses; at home with teens, inspiration for writing in a journal or at work, especially if you manage/coach people. By the way, if you are asking staff in work, give them some time to think about their answers before you discuss!

Question 1:  What are you best at doing?

Why is this important: This question focuses your mind towards your strengths, which you should develop. We all can’t be good at everything, so what’s your sweet spot?!

Question 2: What do you wish you were better at?

Why is this important: Here you identify a skills/knowledge gap. Or it might help you identify an area that is proving difficult despite your efforts.

Question 3: What talents do you have that you haven’t developed?

Why is this important: The answer to this question reveals your intrinsic motivators, passion and purpose. Don’t be shy!

Question 4:  What skills do you have that you are most proud of?

Why is this important: Often our proudest moments come from hard won achievements. The answer to this question can reveal your values and untapped energy.

Question 5: What do others comment on most often as being your greatest strengths?

Why is this important: Often we miss the value of our own skills/abilities/knowledge, we’ve become unconsciously competent. The answer to this question may reveal some strengths you have failed to notice.

Question 6: What have you gotten better at that you used to be bad at?

Why is this important: This response reminds you of the benefit of effort and hard work in your life.

Question 7: What are you just not getting better at, no matter how hard you try?

Why is this important: Your response here is an indication of activities/behaviour etc. that is not a good match for you and perhaps you need to rethink where you are placing your focus.

Question 8: The lack of which skills most gets in your way?

Why is this important: What skill is required in your life and hindering your progress or potential. Your answer to this question might lead you to take a course, read a book, or work with a mentor or coach.)

Question 9: What sort of people do you work best/worst with?

Why is this important: Understanding your team can help to depersonalise work conflicts.  Work environment is very important for work happiness, so what culture do you prefer?

Question 10: What do you like to do the most?

Why is this important: This is not always the same as the answer to question 1. I believe that if we spend minimum 50 years working, shouldn’t that be spent in something you like?

So why not ask some questions, be curious. You might be surprised by the responses.